Life is spontaneous and fluid and free. Resisting its currents causes strain; riding its waves lets things flow as they do…
This is why New Years Resolutions are bull. If I really wanted to lose ten pounds I would’ve done it already. Resolutions are misconstrued as hopes or wishes instead of stable goals. “This year I’m going to be who I want to be,” doesn’t really work unless you prioritize yourself when life throws shit your way. I hear people say “I hope I get hot this year” and leave it at that. Goals begin when they’re looked beyond its surface value.
Every year I find myself resolving for a six-pack and higher grades and better job. It never really works out. I’ll go three months strong but then fall a great decline. I’ll do my squats and eat my veggies but eventually get bored or lazy or distracted. I isolate my dedication so much so that I forget all the other variables that contribute to reaching/maintaining goals. Resolutions go array when people use them like horse blinders.
Life is too interesting/complicated to be constrained and so I was focusing on the wrong ideas. For example, instead of not skipping class, I should focus on my grades: because it’s not how hard you work, it’s how efficient you are. Or instead of exercising everyday I should focus on overall health. Sleeping is just as important as exercise as is eating well. Instead of isolating focus on one of the three, aim to create a balance of this holy trinity. Know when and where you can compensate one for the other because sometimes your body needs to sleep in or eat cake or squat or sleep early. Listen when you’re body needs hearing and giving what your body is needing. Time is precious and priorities need to be clear so know when to cut your losses or put in extra elbow grease.
But, archetypal resolutions like doing all 30 days of the squat challenge or going vegetarian or waking up earlier isn’t what I’m referencing. There are levels of self-improvement and commitments and sometimes they can be straining rather than helpful. Shit happens and the efficacy of your life goals or five year plan or whatever depend on your reaction to changing surroundings. We all know life is a rollercoaster; instead of focusing on screaming, let yourself fall down and get up. Sometimes you need to give in to get out…
Goals and commitments need to be mended, altered and suited to your size. While things around you affect your work ethic and priorities, it’s important to know to push yourself. If you don’t challenge yourself, know one will. Or sometimes you need to know when it’s time to stop. Read your surroundings, understand how people react, and interpret this knowledge in your favor because there are 365 days in a year and who you are and where you stand on the 1st will most definitely change.
Since I can only speak in metaphor, here’s another: Approach life as a song. If the song is always changing, you need to learn the lyrics to be able to sing along. Or maybe it isn’t the song that changes, but it’s the people singing it that do. Either way, you need to adapt to the change, accept it and use it in a way that will benefit you and your life.